Sculpted hair

Thursday 24th -  East Midlands Outlet + Chams

Using up more of my leave, I had booked off Thursday to the following Wednesday off work.

I had intended on going on an adventure pre-chams on the Thursday, but the weather was pretty pants so I didn't get out in the afternoon, but was at least mooching around the house dressed.

I was giving a blue jumper dress I had purchased at the J32 outlet it's first go out of the house.

I had agreed to meet up with Ann for food at the East Midlands Outlet before heading to Chams. It is

north of Nottingham just after Tibshelf services so on my normal route down.

We had a coffee at Costa and then a look around at things that were too expensive. Did some photo's with the xmas decorations of course, then headed to Wagamama.

I haven't done much eating with chopsticks, but managed it OK.  I think I had "chicken gyoza ramen". It was nice. By the time we were finished it was time to head to Chams, but we did pop in the makeup shop first. Got a exfoliating sponge, as the laser place said I really should do that.

Also picked up some misshapes to share around at Chams from the Cadburys shop -  a bit of a disappointment, they were all fudges !

We did the short drive to the centre, and I risked putting the car on the church charger - it worked fine this time, made sure to stop the charge on the app before attempting to remove any cables.

The meeting was nice, I didn't say much, I didn't have any earthquake stories :)  , but it's still lovely to be surrounded by trans folk, just being normal. 

Got some fixing spray and mascara from Lynn, need to remember to contribute for those next time.

The church hadn't given me quite enough juice for me to feel 100% confident of getting home with the heater on, so I stopped off at Woodall on the way back. I definitely need to use that one more often - two units which have dual charge capability, so can do 4 cars at once. Although only one CHAdeMO connector.

Friday 25th - Yorkshire Sculpture Park

With the weather much nicer, I took the opportunity to head to the sculpture park for the day. 

I got there at 12:30ish, and headed to the café for lunch. There was a school group hanging around, I assume from near Liverpool given their accents, I was wary of them a little, but got no trouble.

The hot food counter had a turkey meatloaf - I assume thanksgiving themed, but it didn't seem popular there was a whole tray of it left. They have me two portions due to this :) - It was gorgeous, and I was very stuffed afterwards ! 

Drank my coffee and did the indoor exhibits in the main building, there were some weird dolls with animal heads, bit creepy. Went outside and down to the other gallery to see some Robert Indiana's - it was still on from my June visit. 

Found a lovely one outside with the sun in a nice place to get some light behind it.

Then headed down to the glass house, which was still closed, and found they had moved the massive handbag sculpture there. 

Went down to the lakes and decided upon a walk around the upper lake, as I tended to always do the lower one, I may have never done it before.

Found a grotto to take some more shots in, and managed to get a good one in the entrance of that. 

It was getting to around 3:30pm by the time I ended up back towards the main building, and decided I had enough fun, so should probably go home.

It was a very relaxing afternoon.

In the evening I took advantage of having the makeup on , and went through my recent dress purchases and did some try-on's, and made a few sets for Instagram.

Monday - Haircut

I really needed to get my hair tidied up, I'm attempting to grow it long, and it's was perhaps 3 inches on the top, but was only about 1 to 1.5 inches long on the sides. It had been 2 months since I had been to the barbers. 

I hadn't been keen on going back there, as whatever I say to them, it's going to come out looking fairly male, so I figured I would give SuperCuts a go as although they do chaps, it's mainly ladies, and likely to be a lady I would get. At least from my sneaky looks though the windows on my way past last time.

I went in man-mode, got there 9:30 ish, but there was only one lady working that day, and someone else had beaten me to getting her.  I was told it would be an hour and they would txt me.  So I went around Wakefield for a bit, got some goth ladies boots from Deichman 50% off !! (£20 paid)

Headed back after more wandering, and got their txt as I was nearly back. I had to wait a bit while she finished the first lady, but ended up in the chair, where she asked what I wanted.  I was trying to ask for sort of a pixie type look with long on the top and shorter on the sides. 

I showed her my en femme look on Insta, which isn't really pixie at all. She ended up convincing me that tiding the back up, and allowing the sides to grow more would give me more options. So that was done, she did use some special scissors to take some volume out of the sides so they did lay flatten more against my head - but without losing any length.

It should grow out to be a bit bob-ish all being well. Perhaps I can use a head band, I think Joanna did that.

Also tidied up behind the ears and did a tapered neckline, so although long it's not looking unkempt. 

It should allow me to continue to grow it longer hopefully, without arising too much suspicion - my main fear is Xmas with the in-laws, they haven't seen me in many moons, and never with long hair.

Last time I was meeting them, I was panicking they would notice my ear piercings .... 

Anyway she only charged me £10.95 for it, which isn't brilliant for the small number of minutes I was in the chair, but better than the £19.95 for a full cut. She was very understanding and nice though, which is worth something too.

Celebrated by buying lots of nice food from Sainsburys and headed home. 

Deep South in Derby

Wednesday

I had my first proper session of laser booked for Wednesday at 11:15am, work is quite flexible with time, so I just had an early lunch.

She wanted me to do a close shave between 2 - 24 hours before hand , I didn't want to risk it being too short, so I opted to shave about 12 hours before, at 11pm the night before.

It was a bit like mowing a lawn, a long continuous beam, so it did hurt a fair bit more than the test patch which was short zaps. 

The bits along the jawline and top lip were the worst. It only took 15 minutes for my lower face and my neck. I might have to do a better job with where my sideburns meet my beard growth area next time so I can be sure those are done.

I made sure to put Aloe Vera gel and sun cream on as soon as I got home. It was a bit like having mild sunburn, and also a bit tingly.

Was advised not to shave for 72 hours, and I didn't fancy another man mode social group outing, so I skipped Wakefield this week. 

I eventually shaved for Derby on the Saturday, but that's for later.

Friday

I would normally have gone to Nottingham for the 'Invasion' but it still hadn't been 72 hours and my face was feeling a bit tingly. Also I had said to my parents that I would go over visit them on the Saturday, so  didn't want to be dead on my feet.

This would be the first face to face meeting since I had come out to them a month? ago , so was a bit on edge about it.

So decided the best plan was to get that over and done with on Saturday morning, then I could perhaps get ready in the afternoon and do Birmingham in the evening.

I've never done it before, and it's meant to be a really good night - it's usually the 3rd Saturday of the month.

Saturday

Got over to my parents by 11am ish, and it went OK. I think they have taken the approach that they are just going to carry on as if nothing has happened and not mention it. 

Which is OK I suppose, a very pragmatic and well tested approach to the issue :) 

They were both fine with me, and didn't seem upset with me at all. There were no massively awkward exchanges, although for some reason the boys started talking about gender (not mine), which started to trigger my anxiety a little.

We agreed would have Xmas lunch with them, so that was good too - we take it in turns between mine and my wife's parents.

We ended up staying for lunch, so it was around 2pm before we set off for home. 

After we got home I had a tea to relax than started to get ready. The shave wasn't too bad, but face did feel a bit raw afterward. There were a few of the usual micro cuts, but didn't bleed for long.

I don't think my complexion was nearly as smooth as normal, but it was certainly within acceptable levels to go out. Did feel a bit tingly still under the makeup. I was told not to use any perfumed products, but I think my moisturiser did have some in - but probably not huge amounts.

It was a bit of pants day weather-wise, and it didn't really feel like such a good idea to do a 2 hour drive to Birmingham, but had seem some messages on Insta just before I set off about a meetup of a group of some of my friends in Derby at 'The Crown' which I've had on my to-do list for some time, so I decided to head there instead. 

There is a regular informal Monday night trans meetup there, 

A few of us hadn't eaten so we found an American burger place nearby to have a quick bite to eat before heading to the pub. 

https://anniesburgershack.com/restaurants/derby

Gorgeous food, but service wasn't the best. I had 'The Gringo' which had Mexican inspired additions.

We did the short walk to the pub, and I got a drink in there. I got speaking to a few trans people who I had not met before. One was absolutely stunning, she looked like she had dressed for a fashion photo shoot - turns out she was a fashion student. I may have put my foot in it with her, she looked so good I thought she might be a performer of some sort !  - lots of contouring and bronzing.

There was also a really lovely older lady who had only been out a few months.

It transpired that one of the girls who is really into drag had been promised a slot on an open mic night at a nearby bar.

She had put on some effort with her look, she always looks fabulous. So we headed there, and ended up sat watching the 2nd half of a comedy act in the back room. I think we were meant to have paid to watch, but nobody said anything. 

There were quite a few drunks in the audience - mainly female, who didn't help with the comedians flow, but it was still quite funny.

Unfortunately after he finished they didn't open the stage up, not really sure what happened. Apparently they had done this the last two times too.

A bit a of a shame she had been bricking it all night , and had put a lot of effort in with her look.

So we headed back to the Crown, and had another in there. I was quite tired, not sure why, perhaps I didn't sleep too well worrying about visiting my parents. But didn't really feel as bubbly as I would hope to do on a night out. 

Playing happy families and then heading out dressed for a night out also seems to trigger my guilt. 

Headed off just before midnight, and I was home by about 1am. One of the boys had left me some Pizza in the fridge from a takeaway, so had that for supper :)

Took the makeup expecting to be quite red underneath, but didn't look too bad !

Sunday

Quite tired today again, even though I had a bit of a lay in. Still a bit down, might have to go on the treadmill later, see if some exercise will help. Only working 3 days next week, so that may help.

It's my 12 months Izz-versary at the end of the month, at least the first time I stepped out the house. My name was set in stone when I signed up to the Chamelons forum on the 3rd of January.

https://www.nottinghamchameleons.co.uk

Certainly glad my look has improved a great deal, it's been a fun year. I should probably mark it somehow.

Sharks with frinkin laser beams

Dr Evil: "You know, I have one simple request. And that is to have sharks with frickin' laser beams attached to their heads" 

Chams

As previously mentioned, I have to work from Burton upon Trent occasionally, and where possible I try to do this so I can call in at Chams on the way back - to save some electrons.

This week I managed to do this. I also had the Friday off , and with receiving a recommendation from someone at the Trans-Wakefield group I had decided to book myself in for a consultation for laser hair removal patch test (for my face).

After doing so, I realised I had messed up, as they wanted 48 hours of hair growth to assess the suitability of the treatment.

So I shaved at lunch time on Wednesday, so that I wouldn't look too rustic for my day in the office on the Thursday.

But did mean I would have stubble on Thursday night, and although this would have been fine, I am somewhat vain, and decided I would just go in man mode.

I needed to eat before going there, and had arranged to meet up early with Ann, so we could try the Hickory's Smokehouse which is less than half a mile from the community centre where Chams is held. It also has fast chargers, and I am the only person who I have ever seen use them. 

So got there for just before 6, and did a quick charge to 90% while I was waiting for Ann to arrive.

She was dressed and I wasn't which we've never done before, so it was a little odd. The restaurant was a lot busier then I expected, and we could only get seats at the bar that overlooked the flame grill. It was all very American. But service was really fast, and the food was lovely.

Not somewhere I would take a vegan or vegetarian though. The deserts didn't look to enticing, so we finished up and drove the short distance to Chams.

The night itself was really nice, someone who had not been coming for a while was there, I ended up speaking with them a lot. 

Lots of chatting, and tea, and hobnobs. Other than mild curiosity my mode didn't seem to phase anyone - I didn't expect it to.

I did put my Izzy purple glasses on, to give anyone who wasn't quite sure some help, but most seemed to realise pretty quickly.

Must have got in around Midnight, and opened up some parcels that had arrived while I was out. Screwed up with some boots I ordered - got USA size 8, not UK :(

Lazors

The place is only about 20 mins from where I live, so was easy to get to. They do nail treatments there too, so I got a little high from the fumes in the waiting area. 

Once in with Carly, I had about 10 mins of explanations of how the process worked. She also checked the colour of my hair, I did have some white ones apparently.

The laser heats the hair, and this heat flows down it to kill off the follicle, but there needs to be pigment in the hair for the light to heat it up. 

So this won't work with white hairs - electrolysis is an option for these.

You need also need enough of the hair visible so that the laser has something to heat, but not so much that it's burns off on the surface.

Instructions were to close shave between 2 to 24 hours before hand - depending on how fast your hair grows.

I laid down on the treatment bed thing, and she dry shaved a small patch on my neck. 

Then some kind of fluid was applied to clean the area. Then I was blasted with three short blasts from the machine.

It was a bit like an electric shock, not really that painful. I've had worse from dodgy light switches.

It was all over in a minute, I can't shave that area for 72 hours, and it should go a bit red and blotchy.

Assuming there aren't any issues, I will be good to start my first session next Wednesday - it was recommended to have 8 sessions for the sort of facial hair I have.

The proper sessions are only 15 minutes long, so I can use my lunch hour as well !

It was quite cheap too , there is a 25% black Friday deal on at the moment, and got 6 sessions for the price of 5 too in the normal package.

If anyone is interested, this is their site :

www.laserluxxe.co.uk

Heels of Doom

Trans Wakefield

This was pretty standard as the meetings go, Philippa was there and still seemed a bit under the weather from the cold that she was coming down with at the Halloween do at the previous weekend. But she seemed in good spirits, and had been given some potential options for treatment.

Michelle who I had met at the weekend didn't show up, which was a shame. Perhaps she will come along to a future one.

I did the pub quiz with Zoe who seemed to be on a mission with rum and coke, we didn't do very well, but it was fun.

One of the girls mentioned a local laser hair removal place, which is really near me and I didn't know of. I think I shall try and get an appointment booked soon, at least for a test session. 

I want my face done as the priority, but torso would be fantastic. I'm not bothered about arms or legs, or anywhere else that I can easily shave.

J32, Castleford Friday Shopping

I had booked the Friday off to give me options to go shopping before LFF.

I got ready at a leisurely pace and decided upon J32 at Castleford, mainly because I had never been there dressed.

Chose a fairly warm dress I had bought early in the year at a charity shop in Doncaster, that I had never worn out of the house.

I put on most of my going out eye makeup except for eyeshadow - I figured I could add that before the evening do. My intention was to come home, do minor touch-ups and change before going out in the evening.

But I didn't want to look over the top for wandering around the shops.

I had planned on eating out, and I heard an advert for Starbucks on the way to the outlet, and coincidentally I would be passing a new one on the way.

So decided to pop in there for lunch.  I had a Caramel Waffle Latte topped with whipped cream, and a ham and cheese panni.

Managed to consume both without removing all my makeup, and not eating too much of my wig.

Headed to the outlet and parked up out of the way with the intention of getting some nice shots of my outfit. These turned out to be rather blurry, the selfie camera on the phone is useless, even with it on my selfie stick configured as a tripod.

I have since worked out a cunning plan that involves screen mirroring to an old phone, so I can use this is a view finder and use the main camera on the new phone without being able to directly see it's screen.

Anyway, after wasting 5 mins taking useless photos, I headed to the shops. 

There were a lot of old people around, as previously blogged about I am more nervous around this age range than any other, and maybe it put me on edge a bit.

Did Quiz first, but there was nothing that jumped out at me. Walked around to the next shop and a woman was muttering as she walked towards me, not sure if was about be, or my paranoia was at play.

Tried Clarks next - I had lost most of the end of a heel of my brown Chelsea boots months ago, so was on the lookout for some replacement brown boots.

Ended up in Select, where I found some brown pull on ones, with one pair in my size. Also grabbed some sparkly hoops on the display of temptation next to the till.

Had a look in the mirror shop, I quite fancy having a stand up full length one, but I probably can't justify the expense really. Good place to get a selfie though !

Looked in Roman, Crew clothing, Kurt Muller , Weird fish, nothing too exciting was seen - nothing cheap enough anyway.

The last clothes shop on the loop of shops was Next, where I found a bargain long blue ribbed blue dress for £20. I even went and tried it on. I think this may have been the first time I've ever done so.

I've been in changing rooms before to help a friend get out of one she was stuck in, but had never dared do it myself.

The lady attendant seemed a bit cold with me but other than that was fine. 

Anyway it fitted and looked really nice, so will no doubt be appearing on here at some point soon. Forgot to get a picture of it on.

Then I headed into Beauty outlet, was just going to take a quick look, came out £30 down - exciting new nail varnishes, some 'pout bomb' and a lip liner and some 'mega blush'. None of which I used in the evening !

With all the shops exhausted I headed for home.

Leeds First Friday

I was excited to go as normal, but perhaps a bit more due to not having anyone I knew for sure would be there to meet up with. It would force me to try and find some people to hang out with.

I had chosen a yellow dress that I had got from Everything5Pounds on a sale - was only £2.90 - I had worn it to Chams once, but never out in public. 

This was paired with some purple tiger stripped heel boots that I got from a charity shop in Huddersfield for under a fiver, some rose gold tights and my platinum blonde wig with blue highlights. 

Plus my black leather jacket and black handbag with studs. The heels are a little too small for me, but I really love the look. 

I didn't bother touching up my makeup, I got ready, looked in the mirror and thought 'yeah that will do'.

I didn't get off to a great start, and ended up sat by myself looking lonely - not for long though, a couple from London on their first visit (older CD + CIS wife) beckoned me over to join them. 

We had a nice chat, and seemed like would end up giving them a guided tour. But then some people I knew arrived, and after I introduced them to each other they said they were off to take some photos and assume they found someone more interesting to talk to :)

But they seemed nice, and I have some TvChix names for them, I might log on and add them if my account still works. I mainly only use it for the events page, it seems a bit seedy.

I spoke to Dee and Gabby for a bit, then noticed Alice at the bar, I had spoken to her a few times but didn't know her that well. She tends to stay in the Marriot bar rather than leaving with a lot of the others as they migrate to other clubs and bars. 

She prefers the less noisy environment so she can chat. Turns out she fancied some real ale, but her usual friends wanted to go do the clubs, so she was planning on going to the Foleys Tap House on her own.

It's about half a mile away from the Marriot, totally away from the Freedom Quarter where all the LGBT+ bars are, and my shoes were not really well chosen for the task, but figured would be worth the pain to get to know her better.

So we walked up to Foleys, narrowly avoiding becoming a hood ornament for a bus - turns out I can run in heels if I am fearing for my life.

We had a good talk on the way, and over a few pints (I had halves as was driving) for a couple of hours. It was really nice, there were a lot of very similar experiences in our childhood with regards to mothers 'storing' dresses in our rooms. Coming out to our parents, and the fear of being disowned. Future plans, transition options, coming out at work. It was really nice to get to know each other more.

We left after last orders, I think it must have been midnight, and headed back to the freedom quarter, she was going around York the next day so didn't want to stay up too late, 

but wanted to come to Smokestack with me for a lemonade before retiring. I had a coke in there as I was already up to what I would consider safe to drive on. 

It's not easy to talk in there, and there were no seats free, but I did manage to go talk to another Insta person who I recognised and Alice had gone to talk to someone else too.

I nipped to the ladies and couldn't find where she had gone when I returned, I figured probably bed, and thought that was probably a sensible idea too - my feet were really hurting by this point. She had sent me a message saying she had lost me, so hadn't scared her off :)

I drove home and checked the damage when I got in, a burst blister on my right little toe. But not bad considering how far I had walked.

Cooked a chicken burger and then went to bed at about 1:30am.

Still woke up at 7:30am though, damn body clock !

Welsh Week Off

Think a mixture of things have got me a bit down in the dumps today. Last day of my holiday, a rainy afternoon, and feeling a bit tired from being out last night.

But thought I best write this, otherwise I will start to forget things :)

Holiday

We were on a family holiday at Tenby in south Wales for the last week, via a friends in Bristol on the Sunday to break the journey up.

Seem to have got into the habit of visiting her in October the last few years.

Our petroleum powered car is not big enough for me to take female attire, as I don't travel light - but I can manage a week.

I last blogged about being in Nottingham on the 21st, I drove back home on the Saturday, then spent the rest of the day packing and getting ready to go.

We left for Bristol about 8am on Sunday, and arrived around 1pm. Had lunch and lots of talking and tea then a roast dinner, and then more talking before bed.

It was very nice. We left just before 9 on the Monday, my friend works from home, so we needed to get out of her way before then.

We got to Tenby 1ish I think, the caravan was meant to be available by 2pm, but had been done early which was nice.

I had ordered a 'Silver' one , which usually means 'not tired' but this was brand new, and verrrry nice, and seemingly nearly new.

We had a nice week, Monday we just explored Tenby, and the island fort. Tuesday we did Pembroke Castle, and then an zoo type thing the next day. 

Thursday the kids wanted to do another animal place, so the wife took them there, and I had the afternoon to myself pottering about Tenby.

Friday we drove home, A roads most of the way through Wales, some lovely scenery. Grabbed a nice lunch at a nice little greasy spoon café in Welshpool.

Didn't get home until late afternoon.

I think I confused the Mrs one morning by being a bit amorous. I think she had resigned herself to me perhaps being just be friend going forward. I am a spreader of uncertainty, which doesn't feel great. 

But It was a nice break, good to see the kids happy.

 

Saturday Night

I was itching to go out, and there was a Halloween event at the local bar in Wakefield. 

I had a spiderweb detailed dress from Voodoo Vixen that seemed appropriate - I had got it months earlier.

Did seem to squeeze some bits of flab out the sides of the sleeve holes though, so put a back knitted shrug on too. 

Also my forms were quite visible, so went with the modesty camisole too.

Went with a more gothic makeup look, dark blue lipstick, and smoky eyeshadow with some blue to compliment the lipstick. 

Decided to go with the normal wig, as I still wanted to be recognised, and it was that or a cheap long black one really.

I think it worked quite well, I was by no means the best dressed however - there was a prize for best dressed, and some had gone all out with costumes and fake blood :)

Philippa

But anyway I did at least look like I had made an effort. Better than the group who all came as where's wally.

Some of the Trans-Wakefield crew were there, I hadn't checked their discord so didn't know they were going. 

Philippa was there who I had spoken of before, she is really lovely, we had a good chat - she was just back from a mini cruise. We did talk of her cancer, but only briefly, she doesn't like to bring the mood down.

Even managed to get some photo's with her. She may be attempting to pop along to next Friday's LFF, which will be nice for her to experience. 

She certainly won't have been in a room with so many trans folk at the same time before. She was feeling a bit under the weather so left early. 

Michelle

I had spotted a trans person walking around and looking a bit lonely. 

I had been waiting for an opportunity to go talk, but she found a friendly chap outside when vaping who brought her over and introduced her to us instead.

Her name was Michelle, had only been dressing for 3 weeks, but she looked really good. 

She ended up sat beside me, and we spent a few hours talking - a Wakefield local, within walking distance of the bar. 

It also came up that she was also thinking of LFF on Friday, so I may now have two to show around !   

Should see her before hand at the Thursday trans-Wakefield group too.

I was getting a bit tired so I did my usual trick of disappearing at midnight. Michelle seemed to be feeling very huggy, think it was all quite emotional for her to connect with the group. 

While waiting for the car to demist, I had a young lad politely knock on the window of my car to ask if I was single. I was already a bit nervous and had locked my door before he got close. 

It was quite unexpected. Once I told him I was married he apologised and left, a bit odd.

I told a friend later, and they asked me if I dragged him into the car, clearly I have a reputation !

Eyebrows and social updates

Eyebrows

These were something I really worried about when I was first starting to go out. Using glue to cover, and templates to draw back on. I have plucked mine fairly drastically, and had been free styling drawing over them with a brown eyebrow pencil and wavy felt tip with 5 points to simulate hairs. 

But I wasn’t that pleased with them. So I have been looking at different techniques, and stumbled across this video demonstration. The lady they did it on had fairly bushy eyebrows and it didn’t seem that good, but when I did it on my own I was pleased with the results :

https://feminizationsecrets.com/feminize-male-to-female-eyebrows/

Trying to do this from now on, will see what feedback I get. I also need to experiment with making the ends more pointy - I've bought brushes and powder but not tried yet.

I also did try some more discrete nail varnish, it's sort of stone coloured, doesn't stand out much at all. Wore it in man mode to Asda without even thinking.

Saturday Night (15th Oct)

I felt the need to be sociable, so figured I would try the Wakefield bar that the
Trans-Wakefield meeting is normally held in, perhaps just go for a few drinks and see if could engage with anyone.

I had been once before on a random night, but it turned out to be a birthday party for the group leader that night, and so ended up with the group again. Not that I am trying to avoid them, but it is nice to talk to non-trans people too.

I got a drink and then sat down on my own, and ended up on my phone. Realised I had a big credit card bill to pay, so ended up sorting my finances for a while.

After a while one of the regulars had noticed me, and decided to come over and talk to me, a lady called Magenta – she loves Rocky Horror :)

So began my welcome into the group of regulars, she took me under her wing and made me feel very welcome. We chatted for a long time, about her youth and coming out as a lesbian at school, and myself about my own situation. It was really nice.

There was a drag act on that night too, with some lip sync battles, I was thinking of heading off, but she had been roped into performing, and wanted me to stay to watch – so I did. She was quite good, but she didn’t seem to think so :)

So I was still there at 1am when the bar stopped serving. The older drag queen came over and chatted, and did invite me to go to a club with them all – but I figured I best go home, as was pretty tired. Definitely going to try and stay out longer with them next time.

Thursday (20th Oct)

This was the normal Trans-Wakefield meetup. It started pretty slow, the people I would normally talk to were not there, so I had to try and talk with some others. They are all mainly a lot younger than me, aside from the leader and one other lady. So I don’t find it that easy.

We ended up sat around the corner from the main bar, playing an online game that involves a statement with requires one of more rude - or not politically correct answers from a set of virtual cards you are dealt. ( https://cardsagainstonline.com/ )

It was quite fun – but did mean we didn’t participate in the Quiz, or mingle much with the regulars. So I didn’t get much chance to talk to Magenta again, although I did wave. I am thinking of going back this coming Saturday night.

Friday (21st)

This was the Nottingham invasion, I had a hotel room booked for the first time –
the Premier on Goldsmith street. Normally I drive, sip coke all night, and then head home sometime after midnight. But I fancied giving it a proper chance as a night out, and having some social lubricant. It was a pretty good night. Ann was coming along too which was nice, as she is lovely to talk with – and also she had recovered my charging cable too, so I needed to get that back.

I got ready pretty quickly, and go down there for 7:30pm, and managed to get checked in OK. The premier inn wasn’t that far from the venue, so was able to get there for 8:00ish. Met up with Rebecca, and Ann and a new girl Sophie who I had not spoken to before. Simone, Danielle, Dee, Helen and Gabby showed up a bit later.

We had a few in there, then Simone had decided to get a few of us out invading, so a group of I think 7 of us ended up going out to a few pubs. The first place was the “Six Barrel Drafthouse” a sort of hipster place, IPA’s mainly, the bar man was trying to be nice – he asked us what it was like to be a woman ….. how do you answer that really.

Then we did a walk into the centre and went to a sort of clubby type bar “Revolution Cornerhouse”. It was a bit hard to talk, so Ann and myself left a bit early, and went back to the New Foresters via KFC. I hadn’t eaten much so was pretty hungry. It was really slow service in there.

I stayed at the pub for another hour, then decided to head back to the hotel, said my goodbyes and got back without incident.

Had a nice cooked breakfast in the morning, then decided to have a mooch around the town centre for a bit, partly to make sure I was OK to drive. Had a look around M&S for tights as I had laddered my black ones the previous week, but didn’t see any I liked.

Set off home around 11am, stopping off at the “Hickorys Smokehouse” at Nuthall to charge my car.

Foxxing Chargers !!!

Thursday night was Nottingham Chameleons night -  I was hoping to sneak off work early to get ready, but I had some important things to fix before I signed off for the week so wasn't able to in the end.

Had a shower and shave, and did some basic makeup. I had a Vinted delivery in the morning which I was excited to wear out - another jumper dress, but with blue on it, which I though would go well with my blue suede boots

Got there fairly early in the end, and then had the fun of attempting to get the charging app to allow me to start a charge. I failed for 5 minutes, then thought I would just plug the car in, then continue from the comfort of the meeting room in the community centre.

I did eventually get it to start charging....

The meeting itself was a bit different, as there was a guy in from Nottingham NHS's Sexual Health Services. So he had the floor for the first hour. It was mainly a fact finding mission for him to get ideas on how to make their services more accessible. 

He seemed to be getting a lot of good things from the members, but he wasn't writing anything down, and seemed to want us to email him with everything discussed. But he was nice enough, and seems likely we will see him again.

Once he had left it was tea and chatting, and fairy cakes to celebrate Val's birthday, which were very nice indeed. I made a point of going to chat to a younger looking new girl who seemed quite nervous. I'm not so good at that sort of thing, but did chat for a while, we didn't seem to have much in common, but she seemed to appreciate it. I hope to get better by practising :)

Also managed to chat to another newbie who had arrived later, but it was just as everyone was getting ready to leave. It was her first trip out of the house I believe, Sophie. She had gone to a lot of effort with her makeup, I think contributing to her arriving late. She seemed really nice. 

Wandered back to the car, and attempted to unplug from the charger. But it seems it really really really loved my cable and didn't want to give it back. So after lots of messing, I had to leave it there. Fortunately was able to unplug from the car, so wasn't trapped there.

I managed to get through to someone at the church this morning, and they say it happens about 25% of the time and is possibly because I didn't stop the charge on the app before attempting to unplug, and they are getting some instructions drawn up. Getting a friend to collect from them tomorrow, which was very kind of them to offer. 

I have an even slower 13amp plug charger I can use in the meantime, so not a massive issue, but it's worth about £100 so I need my normal cable back.

I don't think I will be using that one again......

Work this week has been OK, I had to go to Burton on Wednesday just to show my face, as we are all expected to do office days occasionally. It would be fantastic if the days where it's good for me to be there coincided with Chams, but this has only happened once so far.

There is a pub meetup in Ripley on the 1st Wednesday of the month, I may also see if I can do an office day for that, then get changed to attend that one. I've done it once before, it wasn't a bad meet. 

Other things this week - a lovely lady had found this blog on the Chams site, and has been reading through, and we have had a few nice emails back and forth. I may have a pen pal !

Don't think she is at the point of coming to a meeting yet, but maybe I will get to see her one day too.

Great to know that other people are reading this though, and getting something from it, I really only have the presence of a comment to know for sure that anyone has read it, so I was most pleased to find others had, and enjoyed.