New Years Eve

Well I should really be going out to Wakefield tonight, but I'm a little tired, and I would be driving, so I've decided to stay in and have a virtual NYE, which most of mine have been for a quite a while now.

Obligatory Brief 2022 Recap 

Xmas-eve-eve pub visit

It's been a year of many firsts - at least when en femme :

Coming out to friends and family

First visit to a group - Chameleons

Nottingham Invasion 

Dancing again, after decades of not 

Making new friends 

Instagram 

Pride(s)

Sparkle

Shopping trips

Cinema trips

Adventure days 

Leeds First Friday

Branching out to other groups - Wakefield

Ear piercings

Laser hair removal

Hair dressers 

It really does sound like a lot when you make a list, and I'm sure I would have not expected to be able to achieve even half of that if you had asked me earlier in the year.

Fortunately I don't really have any major events to be too sad about, I suppose the worst is that I'm still not really any closer to deciding what I want to do with myself. 

The steps I've taken could be still easily explained as wanting to make it easier to cross-dress, and well don't seem to be attracting too much attention from those not in the know about my secret double life.

I really hate waking up and seeing myself in the mirror still 😢 - but if that's all I've got to worry about, I think I have it pretty easy compared to most.

Festivities 

I was dreading meeting up with my in-laws on boxing day, I thought the hair may ring alarm bells, but I actually got complemented on it !  Mother in law even joked I should dye my grey streaks, and wasn't phased when I suggested purple .....

Christmas day was with my parents and brother , our kids , it was all normal, nothing said - I was in man mode of course. But it was as nice as it ever was.

The last few days I've been working on my car - I had cut 5mm off my nails to avoid any questions about those from in-laws or my brother, so it's been easier to get grubby in the garage without breaking them. Still a bit sad they are so short, but I can get stick on ones worst case.

En Femme activities

23rd of December -  Xmas-eve-eve drinks at the local bar

I felt the need to dress, and figured I would pop to the bar on the off chance that people would be there, but there was nobody around that I really knew. So I just nursed a shandy for an hour and chatted to friends online. 

It was still nice, just to be sat somewhere where I felt like I belonged, some nice background noise. It was a nice relaxing hour at least.

29th of December - The Trans-Wakefield support group. 

I had forgotten that it would be on between Xmas and new years, and was glad of a reason to go out.

Turns out there were 'spys' from the Leeds group who had dropped in unannounced. I do find the level of suspicion about other groups quite amusing 😂  - someone warned me of them while I was getting my first drink at the bar.

One of them as a trans man called Sam, who was really nice - only a little older than me I think. Had identified as a lesbian for many years, and only recently come to the conclusion that perhaps it was a bit more than that.

He lives in Wakefield, and I got the feeling that may end up coming to our group as well as Leeds. Looking forward to seeing them again on the 5th. There arn't many in my age bracket, so I sometimes find it hard to join in. Although I did seem to manage to do better this last time. 

We are at a new LGBT meeting place venue 'Our House' , which is near the pub for the next one.  First meeting of the month will be there going forward.

There was a very drunk young CIS lesbian there who gave me some compliments and was quite tactile, possibly the drunkenness takes a little credence of the compliments  - but still better than none at all. She knew I was trans, but didn't seem to phase her. Was a bit worried she was going to fall over at one point. 

As always there was a random dog there too, 'loki' , sort of greyhound-ish looking. I left fairly early, Sam had left earlier to go for a meal, and I had already had two shandys.