Relationship Status

 

Relationship Status 

Well I thought I should perhaps talk about something more serious than my adventures for once. 

I have a lovely girlfriend called Charlotte (also trans) who has featured in a lot of my posts since early in the year.  

My wife of many years has not known about this until recently, she had read the blog in the past, but I don't think she has for a long time now.  So I had not been able to talk about this until she knew. 

She was understandably upset, mainly that I had not told her, and that she had to ask. I couldn't lie when she did, I was tired of having the secret, I don't like lying.  I was being pretty obvious really, as if I wanted it to come out, but didn't dare. 

It was similar to how sloppy i was getting with hiding my clothes just before I came out to her, being caught is the lazy way of doing it though.

I won't go into the details, as I don't want to overshare - but things had not been going that well with our marriage for a while even before I came out - but doing so probably put the nail in the coffin in terms of a possible re-enlivenment of it.

We were really just drifting along as friends, we do still get on and will hopefully continue to do so.   

Things as largely as they were before she knew, nothing much has changed other than she knows really.

We have not really had a discussion about long term plans, other than I didn't want to completely leave any time soon for the sake of the boys. We will need to sit down at some point and have a proper discussion. We really should talk more. 

My kids don't know, they will eventually of course, but Charlotte doesn't come here very often, and when she does it usually to leave her car while we go for adventures somewhere.  

Charlotte does read the blog - ( Hi Charlotte 👋 !! ) which is nice, she enjoys reading my reports of our adventures 😊

 I shall finish this here for now, I don't want to waffle on too much.